I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself. -
The downside of happy... Not the genuine sense of feeling happy, rather, the forced expression of cheer mandated within a certain segment to give the impression that everything is just peachy when the reality is simply otherwise.
Probably don't need to point out -- but will just in case -- when one is truly happy, being subjected to this empty relative is disheartening ... the equal to nails on a chalkboard.
The great thing about being human is the gamut of feelings we get to explore. Inhabiting just one of those can be extremely confining -- to the point of asphyxiation. Guilty, I am, of being a fan of the yellow happy face icon. I use it with gusto and have several items in my personal space to remind me -- it's just life -- smile.
That said, I do know when I am unhappy and I go out of my way to avoid situations where I am expected to fake my presence or response. Most of the time, I succeed. Warning: That tactic is not a good method for developing a large bank of "friends." However, the last thing I want to do is send a message of false enthusiasm. Real enthusiasm and joy are contagious. They lift us up. When I have that energy I love to share it! It just doesn't have an auto-pilot function. Like every living entity... the energy ebbs and flows.
The visual married to this audio helps to flesh out the content. Acclaimed journalist, author and political activist Barbara Ehrenreich explores the darker side of positive thinking. They clipped the opening where she goes off on the Pink Ribbon Club in response to her own journey with cancer and pick up midway when she gathers steam on the effort to paint a perky facade on those who got nailed by corporate downsizing.
One point Barbara later touches on is the message that we can attract what we want with our thoughts. That little oversimplification made popular in The Secret has been a great source of misunderstanding and frustration for those who try to actualize it in the typical fad diet fashion. I'll address that after the video.
Barbara takes The Secret author (Rhonda Byrne) to task for moral callousness, re: her comment that those who suffered a tsunami were sending out thoughts that drew it to them. Good call. But what the comment (by Rhonda) does underscore even more is the missing link in The Secret.
It totally failed on the spiritual component and became a tool to get more toys or to make those who could not succeed in acquiring said toys feel they were somehow less worthy.
Yes, LOA (Law of Attraction) works. But it isn't an exercise; it's a way of life. And we are already doing it in a fashion. To manifest that aspect in conscious form, one must become the vibration, wave, tone, frequency... and none of that sounds logical, easy or cookie cutter. What we are doing is LOR (Law of Reciprocity). We get what we put out. Why? We seek validation and belonging and gravitate to that which mirrors us in our relationships with others.
For LOA to be effective, we have to know inside out...all of our subconscious inner workings...spirit and spirituality - heart and soul - shadow and light - and develop the ability to integrate and shift that to mirror that which we consciously desire. We have to become better at "being." Or NOT. Cool.
The very least of that ability is demonstrated in the acquisition of material goods.... and yet, that's the area lauded and applauded by most acolytes of The Secret. Sigh.
So, what about that forced state of perky? Barbara doesn't advocate gloom and doom either. She is simply pointing out the true need to be conscious of the value of expressing one's authentic feelings and understanding why there might be an aversion to one expressing a genuine state of being that differs from the status quo ... and also knowing when the lock-step status quo is out of touch.
Happy - requires no stuffing.